Thursday, April 16, 2009

Jesse McCartney and the All American Rejects put it nicely!

Just replace all the romance with a purely platonic friend, and these songs pretty much say it all.

"How Do You Sleep" feat. Ludacris:

It's been about a year now
Ain't seen or heard from you
I been missin' you crazy
How do you how do you sleep
I found the letter you wrote me
It still smells just like you
Damn those sweet memories
How do you how do you sleep
How do you sleep

Tried my best at movin' on
Have yet to find a girl like you
See things now I didn't before
Now wishin' I had more time with you

How do you stay awake
Knowin' all I do is think of you
All the things we thought about
Then, never will happen again
If I could just see you

If I had my way come and get you girl
In your favourite car with the missing top
Around my way where we used to park
And did all those things to steal your heart

It's been about a year now
Ain't seen or heard from you
I been missin' you crazy
How do you how do you sleep
I found the letter you wrote me
It still smells just like you
Damn those sweet memories
How do you how do you sleep

It's been about a year now
Ain't seen or heard from you
I been missin' you crazy
How do you how do you sleep
I found the letter you wrote me
It still smells just like you
Damn those sweet memories
How do you how do you sleep
How do you sleep

Baby all that I hear from my friends
Again again and again come and ask 'bout you
They say we saw your girl at the game
And damn we gotta say a big mistake by you

Not only did your body bang
But I miss the conversation too
Tell me that you're gettin' more sleep
Can't think can't eat till I come see you

If I had my way come and get you girl
In your favourite car with the missing top
Around my way where we used to park
And did all those things to steal your heart

It's been about a year now
Ain't seen or heard from you
I been missin' you crazy
How do you how do you sleep
I found the letter you wrote me
It still smells just like you
Damn those sweet memories
How do you how do you sleep
How do you sleep

It's been about a year now
Ain't seen or heard from you
I been missin' you crazy
How do you how do you sleep
I found the letter you wrote me
It still smells just like you
Damn those sweet memories
How do you how do you sleep
It's been about a year now
Ain't seen or heard from you
I been missin' you crazy
How do you how do you sleep
I found the letter you wrote me
It still smells just like you
Damn those sweet memories
How do you how do you sleep
How do you sleep


"Gives You Hell"

I wake up every evening
With a big smile on my face
And it never feels out of place.
And you're still probably working
At a 9 to 5 pace
I wonder how bad that tastes

When you see my face
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell

Now where's your picket fence love
And where's that shiny car
Did it ever get you far?
You never seem so tense, love
Never seen you fall so hard
Do you know where you are?

Truth be told I miss you
Truth be told I'm lying

When you see my face
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell
If you find a man thats worth the damn and treats you well
Then he's a fool you're just as well hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
Tomorrow you'll be thinking to yourself
Where did it all go wrong?
But the list goes on and on

Truth be told I miss you
Truth be told I'm lying

When you see my face
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell
If you find a man that's worth the damn and treats you well
Then he's a fool you're just as well hope it gives you hell

Now you'll never see
What you've done to me
You can take back your memories
They're no good to me
And here's all your lies
If you look me in the eyes
With the sad, sad look
That you wear so well

When you see my face
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell
If you find a man that's worth the damn and treats you well
Then he's a fool you're just as well hope it gives you hell

When you see my face
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell (hope it gives you hell)
When you walk my way
I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell (hope it gives you hell)
When you hear this song and you sing along well you'll never tell
And you're the fool I've just as well I hope it gives you hell
When you hear this song I hope that it will give you hell
You can sing along I hope that it puts you through hell

Thursday, April 9, 2009

You Live, You Learn

It has already been a hell of a year for life experiences. I could go on and on about Thuy, but I'm tired of being in that place. She's gone, and I need to move on. The best I can do is make the most of my life without her.

What makes my heart so heavy today isn't even my tragedy, but it's so close to home that my heart is broken all the same. A couple of weeks ago, my sister's boyfriend went AWOL from the Navy, and we were all very confused and worried. Today, we found out that his body had just been found in a hotel. I don't know any more than that, but what I've been told is that they're calling it a suicide.

Having just a lost a friend myself, I know a little bit about how much it hurts. But Thuy isn't really dead, she's just... dead to me. I don't really want to go into it, but the short version is that I found out from a mutual friend (after seven months of not hearing from her) that she "just didn't want to be friend anymore." She never even said goodbye, and I never got an explanation.

That being said, it's almost beyond my imagination how much it really hurts when your loved one is really dead. I've known a couple people that died, but no one really close to me, just aquaintances and classmates. Except my grandpa, but that's very different... he was 82 and on life support, it was definitely his time and he was ready to go. But when someone goes before they get married, have kids, or even graduate... that's so much harder to deal with. You never stop wondering what could have been.

And at least for me, I can hardly wrap my brain around it. I didn't know him all that well, but he was very important to my sister, so that makes him at least indirectly important to me. I can still remember talking to him in person when he visiting us when he was on leave, very much alive and animated, with all sorts of plans for the future. I mean, it's impossible, he was just right there!! How can he possibly be dead??

The really, really weird thing is that just a few days ago, I had a dream about him. That's pretty extraordinary, cause like I said I hardly knew him. I dreamed I was at school, but my mom and sister were with me for some reason. I was getting something from my locker, and there was a post-it note on the locker that said "They have found my body. --Lee." And for some reason, we kept expecting him to walk around the corner. In the dream, it didn't make any sense, like how could he have written this note about himself if he was dead, and if that was the case, why did we expect him to show up? But as soon as I woke up, it was totally obvious... the note meant suicide. And, sure enough, it looks like that's what happened in real life.

I feel so weird. It's not that I miss him personally, since I didn't really know him, but it's very unsettling. Suicide is an ugly thought, no matter how you look at it. Especially since I've had to make a few suicide prevention calls for my loved ones before. Ironically, for the very girl that's dead to me now. More than anything, I just hurt for my sister. I really believe they were soulmates, and I don't use that term lightly. He brought out some good things in her, and although I know she's a strong girl, that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. Losing the ones you love is everyone's worst nightmare, and it's already true for her... and she hasn't even graduated from high school yet. I can't fathom the pain she must be going though, and my heart just aches for here. I only hope she can find happiness in something or someone else someday, even though no one can ever take another person's place.

Rest in peace, Lee.